Notes to Poem:
"Love is for the lucky and the brave"


Preface: On Saturday, February 16, there was a Chinese New Year Party at Ballroom Dancing in Cubberley Pavilion, Palo Alto. I arrived at 8 pm for the Waltz lesson taught by James Kleinrath. There were lots of food and fruits salad for the dancers. The Palo Alto Chinese Children Folk Dance Group had a special performance. Chinese girls from 5-10 years old did a red ribbon dance, swirling it over their heads and lassoing it around their bodies. While I was watching their performance, someone put a fortune cookie in my hand. It was Gillian, a ballroom dancer who teaches Pre-schoolers at Pacifica. I put the cellophane-wrapped cookie in my shirt pocket. When I got home at 12:40 am, drank a cup of milk and opened the fortune cookie which read "Love is for the lucky and the brave". Al Guzman picked me up at 8 am on Sunday, Feb. 17, drivimg to AMC Mercado 20 (3111 Mission College Blvd) to see Spider-Man: Into the Spider-Verse (9:40 am-Noon). We had late lunch at Hometown Buffet (12:10-2:30 pm). Al dropped me off at Los Altos Library (3:20-6:10 pm). When I got home, took a nap (7-10 pm). After waking up, read Joseph Campbell's The Power of Myth (1988), Chapter VII: Tales of Love and Marriage (pp.184-205), Sir Gawain & the Green Knight (pp. 152-153), and Schopenhauer (pp.110-111). Got out my yellow-lined pad, and wrote this poem of 8-stanzas and 32-lines in two hours (12:30-2:35 am).

Commentary on Poem: "Love is for the lucky and the brave"

declared the fortune cookie Gillian puts
in my hand as I watched Chinese girls
doing ribbon dance at ballroom dancing
celebrating the Chinese New Year.

Fortune Cookie

Fortune read when I got home

Fortune Cookie & Fortune
I put the fortune cookie in my shirt pocket. After the Chinese girls ribbon dance, I invited Gillian to dance
the rumba. Told her I received "Happy Chinese New Year" greetings from three of my ex-roommates—
Huai-Han from Columbia (undergraduate), Leonard Wan from Cornell (graduate school), & Steve Gould
from Brandeis (post-doc). Didn't read my fortune until I got home at 12:40 am.
Photo Sources: Fortune cookie in cellophane (safarisun.net); Fortune (tricksterchase.com)

Lucky is the troubabour whose songs
win the heart of the woman he loves
as he goes off to battle in the age
of chivalry as a knight in combat.

Troubador in Love
Manesse Codex

Troubador Leaving
Manesse Codex

Knight in Armor
Manesse Codex
Troubadours were the nobility of Provence and then later other parts of France and Europe. In Germany
they're known at the Minnesingers, the singers of love. Minne is the medieval German word for love.
The period for the troubadours is the 12th century. The troubadours are the first ones in the West who
really thought of love the way we do now— as a person-to-person relationship. Operas have been written
about Minnesang tradition: Richard Wagner's Tannhäuser(1845) & Richard Strauss' Guntram (1894).
Photo Sources: Troubador in Love (wikimedia.org); Troubador Leaving (wikimedia.org); Knight in Armor (flickr.com)

"You are very brave" Marlene Dietrich
tells Gary Cooper when he pulls her
to his lap as she sells him an apple
that he has no money to purchase.

Marlene Dietrich
in Morocco (1930)

Marlene Dietrich
in Morocco (1930)

Marlene & Gary Cooper
in Morocco (1930)
In Josef von Sternberg's 1930 film Morocco, Marlene Dietrich played a nightclub singer Amy Jolly,
while Gary Cooper was Tom Brown, a Legionnaire private. After her songs, she carries a basket of
apples, selling them at the tables. Gary Cooper applauds her singing and she throws him a flower.
He doesn't have enough money to buy her apples, and she gives him one anyway. Then he pulls
her down to his lap, and Marlene says "You are very brave" and puts her house key in his hands.
Photo Sources: Marlene Dietrich in Morocco (youtube.com); Marlene Dietrich in Morocco (youtube.com);
Marlene Dietrich & Gary Cooper (picclick.com)

You are brave courting your beloved
abandoning all fears of rejection.
You are lucky if winds blow your way
when she says "Yes" to your proposal.

Courtship in Jane Austen

Man on his knees with flowers
While movie lore and myth legends inspired this poem, this stanza is down the earth.
Whe searching for an image of the fortune cookie "Love is for the lucky and the brave",
came across a web page with the query “I got a fortune cookie, "Love is for the lucky
and the brave". What does this mean?” Here are some of the submitted answers—
(1) I think it means you have to be brave to try to find love and lucky to actually get it.
(2) Love is for the lucky because it requires luck to find someone with which you can
share a deep connection. Love is for the brave because it requires overcoming one's fears.
(3) You have to be lucky enough to find someone that shares the same basic ethical and
material values as you. You have to be brave enough to forgive the other person for
whatever they might do and more importantly you have to forgive yourself when
need be. You have to be brave enough to face the world together.
Photo Sources: Courtship in Jane Austen (randombitsoffascination.com); Courtship (chastecourtship.com)

Brave is Sir Gawain when he accepts
Green Knight's challenge to be beheaded.
Lucky is he who receives three kisses
and the wife's garter for protection.

Sir Gawain & the Green Knight
by the Pearl Poet (14th Century)

Lady Bertilak Seducing Sir Gawain
with Three Kisses & Her Garter

Lady Kissing Sir Gawain
by Fortescue-Brickdale
Joseph Campbell's tale of "Sir Gawain & the Green Knight" in Power of Myth (pp. 152-153) is one of the most
riveting stories of medieval romance. The Green Knight comes to King Arthur's Court & challenges the knights
to cut off his head, and in a year come to the Green Chapel and be beheaded. Sir Gawain was the only knight
accepting this challenge. After a year, Gawain rides off to the forest & finds a hunter's cabin. Hunter tells him
to be his guest for three days before heading to the Green Chapel that's just a few hundred yards away. He says
to Gawain "I'll bring back everything I got during the day, & you give to me what you have got during the day."
After the hunter left, his gorgeous wife comes to Gawain's bed and invites him to love. As an Arthurian knight,
he can't betray his host, and resists this woman. So she gives him one big kiss. When the hunter returns with a
great haul of game, throws it on the floor, and Gawain gives him a kiss, and they laugh. Second day, a similar
event, the wife comes in and Gawain gets two kisses. The hunter comes back with about half as much game
and he gets two kisses, and they laugh. The third day, the wife gives him three kisses and her garter. She says,
"This will protect you against any danger." The hunter comes home with just one smelly fox, throws it on the
ground, and he gets three kisses but no garter. When Gawain goes to the Green Chapel, the Green Knight tells
him to put his head on the block to be chopped off. And then the ax comes down, and whew just cuts his neck
a little bit. And the Green Knight says, "That's for the garter." The Green Knight was the hunter in disguise.
Because Sir Gawain resisted his wife's temptation, he spared Gawain's life. A courageous tale of chivalry
recounted in Marie Borroff's 2010 translation of Sir Gawain and the Green Knight (2010). Verse 1100:
Hunstman tells Gawain he's out for the day (p. 30) to Verse 2395: wife's girdle as gift to Gawain (p. 61).
Photo Sources: Sir Gawain & The Green Knight (amazon.com); Lady Seducing Sir Gawain (inpress.lib.uiowa.edu);
Lady Kissing Sir Gawain (poetryintranslation.com)

Joseph Campbell quotes Schopenhauer—
"How can one sacrifice one's life for another?"
and relates the story at Pali, Hawaii
where two policeman saw a man ready

Joseph Campbell & Bill Moyers
on PBS "Power of Myth" (1988)

Arthur Schopenhauer
(1788-1860)
While reading Joseph Campbell's story about the courage of Sir Gawain,
came across another one of his tale on bravery. He quotes Schopenhauer
"How can one sacrifice one's life for another?" and tells about a policeman
rescuing a man jumping off the cliff at Pali Lookout in Hawaii (pp. 110-111).
Photo Sources: Joseph Campbell (cosolargy.org); Arthur Schopenhauer (wikipedia.org)

to jump off a cliff— the policeman grabbed
him as he jumped & the other policeman
rescued them both. The police said "If I let
him go, I couldn't live for another day."

Nu'uanu Pali Lookout
Oahu, Hawaii

Pali Lookout Cliff
Oahu, Hawaii
Nu'uanu Pali is a section of the windward cliff of the Ko'olau mountain located at the head of Nu'uanu Valley on the island
of Oahu. It has a panoramic view of the windward (northeast) coast of Oahu. The Pali Highway (Hawaii State Highway 61)
connecting Kailua/Kane'ohe with downtown Honolulu runs through Nu'uanu Pali Tunnels bored into the cliffside. Nu'uanu
Pali was the site of Battle of Nu'uanu (May 1795), one of the bloodiest battles in Hawaiian history, in which Kamehameha I conquered the island of Oahu, bringing it under his rule. Joseph Campbell: "A police car was on its way up a little road to Pali Lookout, and they saw just beyond the railing that keeps cars from rolling over, a young man actually clearly about to jump. The police car stopped. The policeman on the right jumps out to grab the boy, and grabs him just as he jumped and was himself being pulled over, and would have gone over if the second cop hadn't gotten around, grabbed him and pull the two of them back. And the policeman was asked, "Why didn't you let go?" His duty to his family, to his job, to his own
career, all of his wishes and hopes for life, just disappeared. And his answer was, "I couldn't let go. If I'd let that young
man go, I could not have lived another day of my life."
Photo Sources: Nu'uanu Pali Lookout (hawaii.com); Pali Lookout Cliff (portaloha.com)

Schopenhauer's answer is that crisis
marks a breakthrough in realization—
that you and all the others are one—
Lucky & brave are those who have found this Love.

The World as Will and
Representation
(1818)

Sage's Vision
in Isa Upanishads

Freeman Dyson
Enlighenment at 15
Joseph Campbell's quote of Schopenhauer is from his The World as Will and Representation (1818). Internet Encyclopedia of Philosophy summaries Schopenauer's views on ethics (2bii): "The compassion of the good person tries to alleviate the suffering of others. At its highest point, someone may recognize the suffering of others with such clarity that he is willing to sacrifice his own well-being for the sake of others, if by doing so the suffering he will alleviate outweighs the suffering he must endure. This, says Schopenhauer, is the highest point in ethical conduct." We find this teaching in Christ: "Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends." (John 15:13). Verse 6 of Isa Upanishad proclaims the sage's vision— "Who sees all beings in his own Self, and his own Self in all beings, loses all fears." Freeman Dyson (born 1923) had such an enlightenment experience at 15. When he found out in March 1939 that his name was not on the football game list. "And in a blinding flash of inner light I saw the answer to both my problems, the problem of war and the problem of injustice. The answer was amazingly simple. I call it Cosmic Unity. Cosmic Unity said: There is only one of us. We are all the same person. I am you and I am everybody." Dyson's "Dream of God". Met him at Stanford (3-14-2001)
on Pi Day, when Dyson told me the names of his two younger daughters who accompanied him to see God.
Photo Sources: The World as Will and Representation (amazon.com); Isa Upanishad Quote (i.pinimg.com);
Freeman Dyson (wisdomportal.com);

— Peter Y. Chou
    Mountain View, 2-20-2019


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